I'll ask a question to the ladies. Because here's something that I can't seem to get past:

How can a guy tell you he's not interested in you without hurting your feelings--

--wait--

--if you've already slept together several times?

Is it at all possible to tell someone, hey, I'm enjoying the sex...but other than that...I could never, EVER be with you?

Ok. You can probably tell that I'm speaking 'cause I've been through it recently...

Wanna hear about it?

Course you do.

A few months back, I met this young lady at a conference. We'll call her...I'll call her T.O. She seemed overconfident--almost arrogant at first, but...after a little bit of prodding and flirting, I realized that she was feeling ya boy a little...and we'd talked about relationships, but I specifically told her that I wasn't down with trying to get into one right now.

(Wasn't leaving that out again. I've learned my lesson. Or so I thought.)

Anyway, I invited her up for a weekend and fucked and licked all of the leftover arrogance out of her.

By the end of the weekend, she wanted to move up here.

Now, this is some bullshit. I'm going to speak freely and just say some shit that I've said before:

You can't change my mind because your sex is the shit. Whether I want to be with you or not is a completely separate decision. If I can't see you raising my kids, getting old and not getting sick to death of you, having different levels to connect on, etc...

...then yes, all I want to do is fuck. Being friends is great, too, if you're down with that. And if you want to be both, that's even better.

But damn, give me some credit for saying what I wanted off top. I didn't lead you on...

...so now, she's pissed. Done gone and wrote it on the other site and let everybody know just how mad she is at me.

Shit, what can I say?

I only wish I knew...lol

On another note, I'm bigger than ever! lol...155 and counting...me and a couple of the brothers are on a new workout plan...in order to be able to take our shirts off on Memorial Day or around then and kick it in the Chi...

(and I may get my next tat then!)

Wish me luck...with both, for real.

Meanwhile, if you have any idea what I should do about the first situation, holla. I need to know before I end up just calling her and going off on her....lol